How to Be the Love You Seek

Dr. Nicole LePera was trained in clinical psychology at Cornell University and The New School for Social Research and also studied at the Philadelphia School of Psychoanalysis. As a clinical psychologist in private practice, Dr. Nicole found herself frustrated by the limitations of traditional psychotherapy. Wanting more for her patients?and for herself?she began a journey to create a unified philosophy of mental, physical and spiritual health that equips people with the tools to heal themselves.

Offering a true paradigm shift in mental wellbeing, Dr. Nicole's teachings empower the individual to break free from inherited beliefs and uncover their authentic Selves. She is the New York Times bestselling author of How to Do the Work and is the creator of the #SelfHealers movement, an international community of people joining together to take healing into their own hands.

"From a psychologist and person who has forged her own path to connect with and be her own authentic self, this book is a practical, reader-friendly, and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others and to our hurting world." - Gabor Maté M.D., New York Times bestselling author of The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness and Healing in a Toxic Culture

"How to Be the Love You Seek is a loving, patient, and powerful guide to creating happy, fulfilling life relationships of any and all kinds. It is a masterwork of awareness and compassion." - Jay Shetty, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Think Like A Monk and host of On Purpose

"Connection isn't exactly what we've been told it is. It's a physical, emotional and spiritual process that starts with the self and radiates out to all those we encounter. Do you want a happier, fuller, more connected life? This book is your toolbox." - Dr Shefali Tsabary, clinical psychologist and New York Times bestselling author of The Conscious Parent


"How to Be the Love You Seek is an amazing book, and a brilliant example of Dr. Nicole's superpower-bringing complex psychological theory and neuroscience knowledge to the reader in a clear, user-friendly way. Walking her talk, Nicole shares her mind, body, heart, and soul to teach us how to identify our relational struggles, take responsibility for our actions, and heal our transgenerational trauma. Reading this book, you will learn how to access your authentic self, create healthy connections in your life, and co-exist in the world with more peace, love, and harmony." - Frank G. Anderson, MD, author of Transcending Trauma: Healing Complex PTSD with Internal Family Systems Therapy.