The Secrets of Happily Married Men (PDF)

Praise for The Secrets of Happily Married Men

"Manly men rest assured: You can hope to become a better husbandwithout having to get in touch with your feminine side. . . .Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman'sinsights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forumfor married men."
--Psychology Today

"Haltzman . . . launches his eight strategies with remarkablevigor. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed outand convincingly supported with useful 'to do' lists and amultitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many menstruggling to build a happy marriage."
--Publisher's Weekly

"Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and Brown University professor,has been studying marriages good and bad for a long time. . . .View marriage as your most important task, Haltzman urges men, andpursue success as you would anything else that matters."
--Washington Post

"Men are good at fixing problems, not talking about them, soHaltzman advises playing to your strength. The genius of this bookis that it . . . asks politically incorrect questions about men andwomen at home--the neglected front in the gender wars."
--New York Times

"The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way formen and women to understand and appreciate each other. It showswhat it really takes to create a loving and lastingrelationship."
--John Gray, author, Men Are from Mars, Women Are fromVenus

Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup anddivorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couplestherapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace,many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creepswho'd better change fast or else. But this new book is totallydifferent, a whole different way of looking at how to build asuccessful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view,men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out whatworks for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate,lifetime commitment. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical AssistantProfessor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, andfounder of www.secretsofmarriedmen.com, has devised aproven method for improving relationships, based on a man's specialand unique skills, strengths, powers--as a responsible andmotivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner,husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. Theydon't approach relationships with the same skills and techniquesthat women do--and viva la difference. Dr.Haltzmantherefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which menhave revealed in confidential correspondence to his highlysuccessful website, including The First Way: Make Your MarriageYour Job, The Second Way: Know Your Wife, The Third Way: Be HomeNow, The Fourth Way: Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The FifthWay: Learn to Listen, The Sixth Way: Aim to Please, The SeventhWay: Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Way: IntroduceYourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love. Within eachof these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines andtechniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences,unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustratethese ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories,anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is apractical, very entertaining, totally original way to buildsuccessful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends,and wives. For a lasting commitment, a continuing guide to solvinginevitable problems and bumps in the road, for more fun, bettersex, genuine intimacy, and a life-long partnership--thisdynamic new author shows the way in a manner that finally includesan authentic male perspective.