Writing for Healing ADHD (ePub)

Writing to release unresolved pain

People say that if they wrote a book about their life, they would have ten books, but they never write one. It is the average person who talks a lot, but never writes. To write, you need to have a large vocabulary to be expressive, and to have a large vocabulary, you need to read a lot and write a lot. That's what writing is all about, and that's why people can't write a life story that would normally last more than ten volumes, and by the time they try to write something, the energy is gone. Perhaps the story has moved on to find someone else to write it. It waited for years for someone to write it.

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There are many best-selling authors who have been accused of writing a story I was going to write and you stole my story. Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the mega-bestseller "Eat, Pray, Love," says she's been called names at fan signings. But the story belongs to the writer. You have to write it while it's fresh in your mind, while it's spinning.

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There's a book called "Women of Paris" by Jean Miran. This book is also about the inner lives of French women, inspired by the author's friend's mother, who told her that when she tried to write in her old age, she couldn't because the stories were flying out of her head.

The book tells the stories of five different women. One of them, Claire, is a professional translator who graduated from the Paris Business School her father wanted her to attend, but instead of pursuing a career in business, she is a linguistic prodigy and translates five languages-English, French, Portuguese, Spanish, and German. After a marriage, divorce, and subsequent relationship gone wrong that left her and her two daughters deeply scarred, Claire fears that her life will repeat itself in a spiral for her daughters. She escapes the pain of reality by translating languages and traveling to other worlds, and author Jean Miran hopes that she can release her pain through writing.

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"The fact that she is trying to write something tells me that she still has unresolved pain.

I want Clare to finish writing his story."

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To write about something, the author says, is to have unresolved pain. A person who talks a lot about himself has unresolved resentments. So I tell that story over and over again, in every situation and with every person I meet. People get tired of it and walk away. There are people like me who feel the need to write when there is no one to listen anymore, and there are others who write because they want to get the pain and suffering out and look at it objectively, like an accident that keeps happening automatically no matter how much counseling and therapy they do. Some people write because they're sensitive, and they feel a lot of things that other people don't.

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