Getting Over Ourselves

Acknowledgments xi Introduction 1 Part I The Urgency to Get Over Our Selves 5 1 A World on Edge 7 Paradise Burning 8 Stressed to Death 12 A Failed Prediction 15 Keynes Versus Hayek 17 The Heart and Soul of Neoliberalism 24 2 Lost Heroes 29 Selfie Generation 32 Lonely Generation 38 Burnout Generation 42 Lost Generation 47 Another Failed Prediction? 51 3 Spirals of Change 55 What Was Enlightenment? 56 From Enlightenment to the Dog Whisperer 58 Tracing the Path of Human Development 61 The Opportunist (Self-Sovereign Mind) 64 The Diplomat and Expert (Socialized Mind) 66 The Achiever (Self-Authoring Mind) 71 Toxic Achieverism 72 Spiral to Arc 74 4 Wandering at an Apex 77 The Self-Questioning Transformer 77 Navigating the Postmodern Terrain 82 Neoliberal Quicksand 87 Destroy This Model 88 Slipping Through the Cracks 89 Part II Un-self Help 93 5 Selfies and Self-Realization Guidepost 1: From Self-Perfection to the Wisdom of Humility 95 Narcissism as Mistaken Identity 96 Default Mode 100 Narrative Versus Minimal Self 102 The True Meaning of Humility 105 The Richness of Self-Realization 107 Anchoring in the Practice of Embodiment 109 6 Loneliness and Oneness Guidepost 2: From Separateness to the Wisdom of Interdependence 117 Physical Interdependence: Bodies of Multitudes 118 Psychological Interdependence: The Resonant Brain 125 Spiritual Interdependence: The Garment of Destiny 132 Anchoring in the Practice of Connection 134 7 Burnout and Wholeheartedness Guidepost 3: From Rationality to the Wisdom of Vulnerability 139 When Your Heart's Not in It 140 Heart as Escape Hatch 145 Mark of the Valkyries 147 Real Compassion 149 Vulnerable Confidence 151 The Heart of Yes and No 153 Anchoring in the Practice of Courage 154 8 Lost and Liberated Guidepost 4: From Progress to the Wisdom of Openness 159 Dare to Not Know 164 Staying with Uncertainty 166 The Cure in Curiosity 168 Relaxing into Insight 169 The Mindful Brain 173 The Modern Mindfulness Trap 176 Anchoring in the Practice of

CHRISTINA CONGLETON is a human development specialist and leadership coach. Her writing has appeared in publications including Harvard Business Review. Christina coaches in private practice with Axon Leadership and partners with consultancies to deliver coaching around the world. She lives outside Denver with her family.